Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda

Okay, you got me, I’ve been watching Sex and The City in the last couple of weeks, I (my sister) have the box and I started watching it a couple of weeks ago, not finished yet.

Carrie Bradshaw (the main character) is a writer if you didn’t knew. She writes a column called Sex and The City anyway let’s get started.

There is an episode called “Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” – which means “Could Have, Would Have, Should Have.” I think this headline was amazing, and I thought about a way I could implement in on a blog post. Unfortunately Julie Roads did this before me, but I think it is worth for me to comment on.

The blogosphere changes as fast as you can say “blogosphere.” So you can’t expect everybody to keep up with everything in the blogosphere.
You can always look back and say “coulda, woulda, shoulda” – and yeah we do make mistakes. In life and in blogging.

You just have to move on. Okay you have to learn from your mistakes, but don’t think way too much about the past. You should rather go and look into the future. Of course learn from your mistakes, but you need to look into the future. Because it is in the future things happens.

“Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.” -Denis Waitley

Uniqueness

And you are all special, we are all unique. That is also why you should not go to a blog, which has success, and then copy the things they do and then expect that your blog will succeed.

We are all unique and there is no exact formula to success. That’s why you I don’t think you should ask guys like Darren Rowse how they build traffic or stuff like that. If you get the chance talking to these so-called ‘a-listers’ you should ask them questions you just can’t get an answer to anywhere else.

You shouldn’t ask them questions you can find with a simple Google search and thereby get 55.000 relevant answers to those questions. I haven’t told you that I am at the Third Tribe, but I am, and the first live call I was not impressed. The questions which was asked was something like this “Should we have links in the content of our blog to our e-commerce site?”

I just think it is waste of time, of my time, of Brian and Darren’s time. I think we should (everyone) take time to ask some relative good questions to anyone we are talking to. Instead of just asking a question. Okay, we are a bit off track here. You will also get much more noticed if you ask a great question. It doesn’t matter if you are talking to me or Darren, ask questions that is worth asking.